Thursday, July 1, 2010

How To Please Everyone

I have this 'friend' who's been facing the same problem for many years now and you know what that is?
It is trying to please everyone!

This 'friend' of mine is the type of person who can never say no to a request... To put it simply, she will try her best to fulfill someone's request even though it's a burden to her...Well, what can I say? Is it because she's too kind? Is it because she's too nice? NOOOOO!!!! *Baka!!! Ehem... The answer is...
It's because she can't say the word "NO"!
And by can't, I mean really CAN'T... It's probably a habit of hers, everytime, people came up to her and ask for a favor, she simply did not hesitate and just say 'yes'... I know, pathetic right?

Well...I'm not saying that helping people is a bad idea..Of course, it's a good deed. But sometimes, you need to know that there are certain things that people need to take care by themselves... And you can't let people step all over you or take advantage of you just because you have the ability to do it...

Come on la, bro...Berbuat baik pun berpada-pada lah...

All of you probably have heard of this story, and let me tell you something about it, I've heard about it like a million times, and each time, I'll learn the same lesson over and over again...

Copied and pasted from the book:

The is an ancient parable about a man and his son who were traveling along a dusty road with their donkey, taking bags full of produce from their farm into the city.

First of all, the father led the donkey along while the boy rode on the animal’s back. But as they traveled along that way, they overheard the sarcastic remarks of strangers who said, “Look at that! the lazy boy rides while his poor father walks.”

This bothered them, so they decided to switch positions. The boy got down and the father got up on the donkey’s back. But this didn’t please anyone either. Now they said, “What a cruel man–making his son walk while he takes it easy.”

Well, what could they do? Perhaps they should both ride on the donkey’s back. And of course when they tried that, people said, “Look at that poor donkey! How could they expect that poor animal to carry both of them and the rest of the load he’s carrying too?”

In a last attempt to please people, the man and his son dismounted and both walked along in front of the beast. Did that help? Of course not.

Now they heard people laughing and saying, “Look at those stupid people. Here they have a perfectly healthy donkey! At least one of them should be riding, but instead they both walk.”

This is one of my favourite quotes from Bill Cosby..

I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody

And there you have it, folks, the answer to the question...
No matter what you do and how hard you try, you just can't please everyone!
If not, you're only gonna end up hurting yourself...
That's all for now. Thank you.

Aja-Aja Fighting!

P/S : Did you know that in Turkey, there's a similar story and the name of the character is Hoca... And this is not the only story... There's hundreds of story of him that teaches so many values.. And I even have a whole book about it! Make sure to check it out!