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Friday, November 13, 2009

A Sweet Revenge

Alhamdulillah, after exam, I can finally relax!
Well....for now,I guess...Since next year is the year of SPM!!!

So anyway, today is Saturday...
My family and I went to Sungei Wang to buy PC for one of my brother who is now in college...
Speaking of my brother....
Somehow, we don't quarrel anymore like we used to...
He maybe somehow have matured and I guess, so do I...

When we were small, when I was like in elementary school,around standard 5,6...We really fought a lot...I mean a lot!
We were so cold to each other and I guess we disliked each others' personalities...I have to agree, when I was little, I'm kinda...Well....A little immature and spoiled...
More like Daddy's little girl...Hahaha...
And he was really childish too...He always want to blame other people...I have to admit, he was a little of a crybaby too....hehe....
His exam results are probably not the best like my other brothers' , I guess that's why he's the least favourite of Dad...
I'm not saying that my Dad doesn't love him...Of course, he does....
The way I see it, Dad always kind of cold to him...Even for the smallest thing, he would still scold him...Maybe it's his way of showing his love?

After years passed by, somehow, me and my sister both wanted to change our relationship with him...We tried to be nice to him...
Every time his birthday came, we gave him presents, eventhough sometimes our present is what he doesn't need,haha...but hey~it's the thought that counts...
Since he was kinda like the black sheep of the family, he kinda lacked some family love...
When Dad scolds him,we always tried to back him up....
There was a few times I felt really hurt towards my brother...
but I just kept quiet since it's for the best....

Now, Just now after we hung out, we were be able to tease and joke around about each other...
When I made a joke, he laughed...
When he made a joke, I laughed too....
When he smiled, I smiled back...
When I smiled, he smiled too...

There was one time, he fell off a bicycle, since we're PBSM,we treated his wound..
There was also one time, my mom scolds me for being late, I kinda cried (hey,dulu la, skrg kena marah dah biasa,haha!)...
Then my brother comforts me...He said "Xpe, Mama bad mood je,"

That's when I realized....He'd finally became a real brother...^^
If it happened when we always fight, he would probably laugh at my face...hahaha~

Do you always fight with your brother? (As a sister)
Have you ever thought about making peace with him?
Well...here's a little advice for y'all...

- Guys are hard to apologize (unless it's their girlfriend) So you have to do it first.
- When he's mad, NEVER talk back.
- When he's sad, try comforting him.
- When it's his birthday, try to give something that he likes.
- Treat him kindly, as you want him to treat you.
- Tell them that if he treats you nicely you will treat him nicely back.
- If your brother asks for help, help him. He'll eventually help you back.
- If your brother wants to borrow your stuff, give him but don't forget to make him promise to take care of it. He'll do the same later.
-To avoid fighting, don't ignore, annoy, or repeat things to him.
- If you feel you don't know him well, try to spend time with him and see what he does normally every day.
-Don't ever yell at him, no matter how mad you are. He'll just use it against you at some point.
-Most brothers I know like games,so a good way to earn his affection is to get your parents to get you a game he like and give it to him in a special occasion.

You know what they say "Forgiveness is the best revenge"...
Like Prophet Rasulullah SAW, when a woman who always spit at him suddenly fell sick, our dearest Prophet visited her and treated her nicely instead of laughing at her face...
That woman was touched and hugged(?) Islam...Hehehe...

I hope we all learned our lessons...

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